Ok, so there is this phenom of “mommy bloggers” especially in the Adoption community, but I’ve noticed a very large gap when it comes to dad bloggers. Apparently there is even a “Blog Her Conference” for women who blog. I know this because several of the blogs that I actually read had authors who attended.
I even went to the Adoptionblogs.com site, and do you know they only have 3 dads blogging over there?!?!?!?! I don’t even know if you can count the one guy, as he blogs about the social service programs in each state, a needed resource in the adoption community, but it’s pure factual informational blogging. Then you have 2 great guys, but I guess I was hoping to find another dude adopting from at least Africa.
I know blogs are a “western” thing, and that most dads in
America spend less than 10 minutes a day with their kids. No, I’m not making this one up, this is an actual verifiable number. But I would think that in the adoption community you would find a few more dads more connected to the adoption process than what you do.I also know that by and large the adoption community is women, and the husbands just go along for the ride. How many times do you hear about the adoptive dad who they entire process doesn’t become real until the kids are actually home? I’ve read the same books you have, and know why they speculate the man is the “passenger” in the adoption process, but even so I would expect there to be a few more voices out there. Now if you do a google on adoptive dads blogs, there will be a ton of results, but for the most part you are going to find yourself on a gay couples blog. It is what it is, and I’m making nothing more of it than that.So where are the other men hiding in the adoption community? Why are they taking a back seat, and am I that big of an anomaly? OK, I know that I am in some sense of the community, not too many long haired-tattooed-pierced-ordained minister-biker ANYTHINGS out there, unless you are specifically looking for long haired-tattooed-pierced-ordained minister-bikers. Now if you through in the transracial adoptive family, well you’ve added too many pikes in that fire, and well, unless you are looking for me, I don’t know what you will find. But there have to be a few guys out there in the blogiverse that like watching king fu movies while reenacting the fights with their son. Who cheer on the fights at the hockey game. Who like muscle cars and hot rods and choppers and bobbers. And who are actively involved in the adoption process and are out there blogging somewhere.
Can you point me to a kindred spirit? Do we exist? If I have found them they are in my Blogroll, so I do know there are a few out there, I just want to know if you know of more.